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In the last five years, I've heard very few genuine statements. I've trying to figure out why that is. I don't expect people to just start pouring their hearts out to me. I don't want that at all.

But it seems like when I approach people with things. People I want to talk to. When I ask them, for example, how they stay sane in this world, they give me a "funny" answer. Does this happen to you. Or just to me, because people think I'm a "funny" person(That in itself is something larger).

Could it be this area. West Michigan. It seems that a lot of what I hate about the world is concentrated in this area.

I suppose what I want to know is why everyone is so "funny" all the time. Like they're god damn Chandler Bing.
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From:frankendorfer
Date:March 7th, 2004 10:08 pm (UTC)
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I think a lot of people do this, myself included sometimes, because they feel like the humor is a better mask to use than to actually have to converse with someone. A lot of this probably has to do with the fact that many, many people CAN'T converse. I don't know why this is, but I'm sure a lot of it has to do with television, etc...

No one has anything interesting to say, because they're not on wacky adventures like Chandler Bing is.
From:kungfuchemist
Date:March 7th, 2004 10:17 pm (UTC)
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That is a simple case of not facing larger truths. Brushing it off with a funny comment is not having to deal with it at all. I, for one, have a big fear of any kind of confrontation. So when I get a question that can't be answered with a yes or no, I brush it off. Very often it is with a funny comment. If people are like me (which I think they are) they will never want to face truths. Ever. Life for many people is just a series of unfulfilled fantasies. And the last thing they want is a "tough questions" or any real truth. That will make their world come crashing down to the "real world" faster than an erection after seeing Estelle Getty frolic naked with Sly Stallone. Which is awful, believe me. Shooting behind-the-scenes footage the "Stop or My Mom Will Shoot" DVD is hard, disgusting work. I will stop now, since I brushed off the genuine statements post with a funny comment, proving my point.
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From:platotron
Date:March 8th, 2004 06:43 am (UTC)
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I don't suppose I think it's such a simple case, myself. Humor can be a mask, sure, but it seems to be many other things as well: metaphor, coping measure, etc. At times I feel the same irritation that you seem to imply; like I can't even reach someone because it's like I'm talking to their inner comedian. However, other times the humor is so desperate and awkward that it seems a true sign of their humanity in light of absolute uncertainty.
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From:mehrheit
Date:March 8th, 2004 08:10 am (UTC)

i'm eager to face truths, i just need to find some first.

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When I ask them, for example, how they stay sane in this world, they give me a "funny" answer.

it might be any combination of these things:

they don't know what you mean
they don't know the answer
they haven't thought about it too much
they are unsure of their answer and fear ridicule
they've thought about it long and hard but prefer to keep their own counsel
they think that if they make you laugh you will like them more

i wish i thought real communication was a possibility. language seems to obscure as much as it illuminates.
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From:platotron
Date:March 8th, 2004 02:04 pm (UTC)

Re: i'm eager to face truths, i just need to find some first.

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Let us end words.

Seriously, given this very frustration, I've tried to stop speaking, because speaking seems so spontaneous that the fact that we hold what each other says as a representation of each other seems very irresponsible.
From:thelastrobot
Date:March 8th, 2004 06:51 pm (UTC)

Re: i'm eager to face truths, i just need to find some first.

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I think there's some hope in the written word. Not much. But it's there.
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From:mehrheit
Date:March 8th, 2004 06:15 pm (UTC)

it wouldn't be the first time

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also, i had to do a search for "chandler bing" to find out who it was. i simultaneously applaud and chastize my own ignorance in this matter.
From:thelastrobot
Date:March 8th, 2004 06:48 pm (UTC)

But Mostly Applaud

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I also applaud and chastize you for it.
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From:platotron
Date:March 8th, 2004 09:04 pm (UTC)

Re: But Mostly Applaud

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I choose continued ignorance in this matter. Thank you.
From:thelastrobot
Date:March 9th, 2004 06:14 pm (UTC)

Re: But Mostly Applaud

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Then I applaud you as well. The sound of one hand clapping across your face!
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